A truth for the truth.....

Have you ever recieved a mail which reads :

The Truth : Woman In your Life

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;

who is earning almost as much as you do;

one, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have

because she is as human as you are;

one, who has never entered the kitchen in her life

just like you or your sister haven't,

as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;

one, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

one, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name;

one, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen;

one, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to;

and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

one, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise;

one, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

one, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her; one, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

Thought I agreed with most of the things written in this forward, I thought it was glorifying women to an extent which was not actually necessary. Men too sacrifices a lot many things for marriage. Had replied by creating an answer for this mail.

A Truth for the Truth : Man In Your Life

Here is a boy who is as educated as you are , usually more,
Who is earning as much as you are , if not more,

One who has dreams and aspirations to spend his money on himself as much as you do,
because he is as human as you are.

One who has never taken anyone else's bags on himself ,
just like you and your brother's havent ,
as he was not the fairer sex,
and the world does not give him any concessions in any queues or tax payments or "reservations of seats" for his "coolie"nary activities.

One who has lived with and loved his parents and brothers and sisters,
for 20-27 years of his life, just as a part of them.

One who has left all the sports channel, friends (especially the girls), the time he could have given to his hobbies, Infact his hobbies per se, his free spirit, to adopt to your "kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi", your idea of a great evening, for being by your side.

One who is supposed to be a Master financial manager from day #1
while you sleep oblivious to his predicament in his new circumstances, environment and that "kyunki..";

One who is supposed to talk to you sweetly whether morning or evening,
even if he is as tired as you are, just to prove that he is not ignoring you.
one who is always supposed to say "darling you look beautiful today"
even if you dont , just to save the day.

to be a servant , a driver, an ATM, a care taker,
even if he dosen't want to be all that.

And is learning just as you are,
all that you want from him.

and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if he demands anything, or if he walks faster than you;

(this was wrongly written for girls and applies in these phrases more)

one, who has his own set of friends, and that includes girls and even women at his workplace too, those, who he knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

yes, he can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even if you smell his clothes everytime he is late;


One who can be late from work,
and its not always "a party" or "someone else" you spy,

one, who is doing his level best and wants to make this most important relationship in his entire life to sustain, if you just help him some and trust him;

one, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one new in his life, - your unstinted trust and understanding his needs, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love for his freedom, if you may call it.